Posts tagged ‘authenticity’

May 13, 2015

Re-learning relating

by Richard Bellars

I find ‘The Invitation’ (video and/or words below) a deeply inspiring poem.  I already knew it but read it again this week in a new light.  Not only does it capture the essence of how I aspire to ‘be with’ and ‘relate to’ others, it is very much an invitation – and reminder –  to myself and those with whom I work to live as fully as we can in all that we do (including also being more effective and influential at works).


Regarding my leadership work, this reminds me how I can help others to be and act in authentic relationships – at home, in the office, professionally, personally, intimately…but always starting and ending with the ever-evolving relationship with oneself.  In a sense, this poem is an invitation to us all to keep learning how to be a whole person on our continual learning journey of self awareness, daring to witness and fully relate to others on theirs.

The Invitation
by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

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March 12, 2015

Travel is a powerful teacher

by Richard Bellars
Wow…the last time I shared a blog was 18th October 2012! Above Colca Canyon, PeruIt feels like I’ve lived lifetimes since then! With hindsight, after setting up the concept of This Grand Adventure in 2011 (which now needs an overhaul!), it would appear that there was a ‘grand adventure’ that I needed to experience first for myself.
 
“We must let go of the life we have planned,
so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
~ Joseph Campbell

 Since the middle of 2011, there has been some monumental travel for me in my life.  I don’t just mean the countries visited, air miles clocked and photographs clicked (landscapes, temples, sunrises, sunsets, old friends, new friends…).  Those are some joyful aspects of travel, which have been amazing and full of wonder and colour….and there have been moments of self-doubting despair and disorientation (darker colours, you might say)….and boy, it’s all been a blast on one level or another!

Heraclitus on the Delta del Ebro, SpainOver the last 3-and-a-half years, I have crewed on board the remarkable research vessel Heraclitus, toured ancient sites of western Ireland, trekked in Peru (3 times in 3 years), lived a few months in Guatemala, as well as some time in Bolivia, Mexico, Cuba, Israel, Egypt, and India (twice); work with the Mowgli Foundation has also taken me to Jordan, Syria (pre-‘troubles’), Algeria and Morocco; and closer to home there have been short visits to Normandy in northern France for the 70th commemoration of D-Day, and to Italy for the beautiful wedding of friends in picture postcard Verona.

What I am talking about here is the deeper inner journey that is available to any of us when we travel…if we are open to it!  

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October 18, 2012

Where does the magic come from?

by Richard Bellars

Pure intent creates ripples of magicIt never ceases to amaze me what is possible when you create an environment of shared trust. It swiftly allows people to feel safe and, from there, to connect at a level of common connection and, ultimately, recognise their shared humanity. This is such a huge ‘why’ for me behind my desire to facilitate, mentor and coach.

The power of authentic relationship

I have been associated with the Mowgli Foundation since March 2010 when I first met co-founder Simon Edwards and was invited to be a mentor in Jordan. Since that first experience I have enjoyed further Mowgli Mentoring Experiences in Jordan, Syria and, most recently, Algeria, all in my development as a Mowgli Lead Facilitator.

‘My best yet’

The most recent experience was the first programme to be launched in Algeria, sponsored by the British Foreign & Commonwealth Office Arab Partnership Fund. It was also to be delivered entirely in French (the first time I have delivered anything professional in French since consulting in Pau some 11 years ago!)

Below are some reflections on what took place during what I would call ‘the best yet’.

Or was it?

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May 8, 2012

Always developing one’s relationship with oneself

by Richard Bellars

I saw and was instantly inspired by the following poem, written by Charlie Chaplin.

So many individual verses resonate for me, for diverse reasons, each helping me to better understand where I’ve been, and better prepare for me for whatever’s to come; the whole of which helps me to make even more of myself and the world around me each and every present moment.

As I Began to Love Myself  –  by Charlie Chaplin

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody.  As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.
Today I call it “RESPECT”.

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